Society and Body Image

body“Skinny bitch.”

I’m sure she meant it as a joke, but I felt all my weight get sucked in. No one has ever called me that before, until I walked out of the bathroom in my beautiful new dress and got that remark from my roommate.

Happy “Tunes Tuesday” dear reader. You’d think I’d have a song to share with you this week knowing it’s summer, but I don’t. I’ve been thinking about a lot of things lately and this is one of them.

I am not skinny. I have been a competitive ballroom dancer all my life and was pushed to stay in shape. 4 hours of working out was required of me every day. In middle school, I was more developed than all the other girls. I got my period in 4th grade and it sucked. I had a bigger chest and curves than any other girl in my grade and I felt ugly. My mom told me that one day I would love them and feel blessed.

She was right, in high school, I felt gorgeous. Guys thought I was beautiful and I felt like Kim Kardashian.

But in college? No one consideres me curvy. They think I’m a “tiny girl” with a “tiny waist”.

“It’s like her body is disproportionate” my roommate laughed telling my suite-mates. “How can someone have such big boobs and a butt with a tiny little body and waist?” I wanted to slap her. I mean, I would call that a gift.

I confessed my hurt feelings to my gay friend Alex later that day, “Don’t worry Shaz. She’s just jealous that she won’t ever have a body as great as your’s. But she does have a point. You are tiny. Do you really eat three meals a day?” I was shocked. How could he ask such a thing?

I feel awful for teasing my gorgeous skinny friends in high school, they aren’t skinny! They are athletes who have strong bodies and work their butts off. They are perfectly normal, just like me. Just because I’m curvier than them, doesn’t make them skinny. And just because my roommate is bigger than me, doesn’t make me skinny.

I hated my roommate’s remarks. She even told me the way I should dress for my “shape”. I knew the way I should dress, I just didn’t want to flaunt around her like that because I knew she would eye my curves and make a comment about them. And when I wore looser clothes to cover them up, she’d tell me I looked like a grandma. It’s like I was stuck. Sadly, my roommate is not the only person who behaves like this today.

Our media portrays what “curvy” and “skinny” is and which one is better. Magazines are FILLED with covers like “How I got my body back!” and “You call this fat??”glamour mag

One of my favorite magazines, Glamour, did an amazing article on it. The attached picture of the two women was Glamour’s impressing article picture.They came up with the “Stop the Body Shaming” title. And I love it. I agree with their message.

I wanted to address this with you, dear reader. I was nervous until I talked about all of this in my Sociology 101 final…my professor gave me an A+ 🙂

xoxo. SassPrincess.

When I Knew It Was Over With Him…

Happy love advice Thursday dear reader! You know that moment, when a guy says something to you…and you just know it’s over? Yea me too. Here’s some of my favorites.  And the sassy reactions that went through my head….

Please, do not use the following:

the break up1.) “You’ll make some guy really happy one day.”

Reaction: You meenie. Don’t you get it? I wanted to make you happy 😦

2.) “You’re like a sister to me.”

Reaction: Cute. Do you hook up with your sister too?

3.) “I don’t want to hurt you.”

Reaction: Well, what do you think you’re doing now?

4.) “I’m just so busy”

Reaction: That’s not what the pictures of you on Twitter and Facebook informed me…. Oh I get it, you were “busy” :p

5.) “You never know what can happen in the future….”

Reaction: If you treat me like this now, and don’t want me now, I’m not going to want you back in the future.

6.) “I’m sorry…I know what I did was wrong”

Reaction: Then why did you do it….?

all I ask

Haha oh reader…I’m shaking my head at some of these. Today I started laughing in random places because I got memories of these lines and I couldn’t believe I stuck around with some of the guys that used them.

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xoxo. S.

My Various Sassy Hairstyles (and what they mean!)

wavy hair 2Dear Reader,

I may be a crazy and busy science major, but my hair, needs to look fabulous. People pay attention to that you know :p So here ya go, the easy hairstyles I do and what they mean ❤

1) My Naturally Wavy Black Hair

I am not joking reader. On a normal average day, this is what my hair looks like! It has no meaning, except for the fact I’m super blessed ❤

2.) Straightened Hairstraight hair

“I got tired of my beautiful natural hair. And I actually had some extra time today, so I straightened my hair ;)”

 

 

half updo wavy3.) Half Up-Do (Wavy)

“I’m feeling classy today. I want to be classy, sassy, and chic.”

***Note, this is the hairstyle I am most known for. Half of the week consists of this hairstyle ❤

4.) Half Up-Do (Straight)half up do

“I woke up this morning, and for some reason, my hair was straight instead of wavy. And that’s boring. So…I pulled it in to an up-do for extra sass :)”

 

 

 

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5) Classic Ponytail (with bangs)

“I’ve been in lab all day. Or, I’ve been in the gym all day”

sleek ponytail

 

6.) Sleek Ponytail

“My face, looks absolutely adorable today. People need to see it.”

 

 

 

side ponytail7.) Side Ponytail

“I’ve been super busy all day…but I feel extra flirty <3”

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8.) The Bun

“I have gotten in touch with my inner ballerina. Too bad I will be in the library studying all day….”

xoxo. S.