I’m Bringing Letters Back!

Dear reader,

About a year and a half ago, I did this thing where I wrote my readers letters. Read more about it here: A Letter to You!

It’s an idea I got from one of our dear bloggers friends (my blog brother) Paul. It was a lot of fun and I really enjoyed writing them. Now I want to do it again! Are you interested? Comment below! You could have been reading my blog for months, years, or this could be the very first post you are reading by me- I would still love to write you a letter! In your comment, let me know what I can write to you about. Example: When I first began doing this, a fellow blogger- Kaiya who was a new to WordPress at the time asked me to write about blogging tips. And I did! You can read it here A Letter to Kaiya

Other topics I excel in:

1.) Providing inspiration/motivation

2.) Food

3.) Humor

4.) Family

5.) Friends

6.) Relationships

7.) Making lists like this (I LOVE MAKING LISTS!)

If you are sitting there saying “Meh Shaz I don’t want a letter, I am a writer. I want to write YOU something.” Well be my guest! Literally! A while ago I hosted “The Shaz Show” on here where I had some of my readers guest blog and it was a lot of fun 🙂

Sooo, request your letter now! Or guest blog 😉

Can’t wait to hear from everybody! ❤

Update: I Will Be Writing Letters in This Order

1.) Chris

2.) Aaron

3.) Catherine

4.) Paul

5.) Whoever else wants a letter!

xoxo. S.

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Try and Make Me Laugh!

screen shot 2019-01-05 at 2.00.34 amReaders, thanks so much for the congrats messages you left about my blogiversary. And if you shared your blog on my older blog brother Paul’s website in his Share Your Blog 2019 post, even more thanks because that means I now have new friends/got to reconnect with old ones.

For 6 years I have been known for making readers around the world laugh or smile. I truly believe laughter is the best medicine. Over the past few months, it’s been hard for me myself to laugh. A broken engagement & being laid off at the same time feels like a living nightmare. Some days it’s ok, some days it isn’t.

One day I will be 100% fine. But today isn’t it 😦

So I need a favor from all my dear readers…I want you to think of something funny. A riddle you heard, something in your life, something you read on my blog- and try and make me laugh! Comment below 🙂

xoxo. S.

A Letter to Me, On the Eve of My 25th Birthday

Dear Shaz,

I hope you know none of what happened to you this year was your fault, and everyone is proud of you for pushing through despite everything that happened.

It wasn’t your fault your parents tried to arrange your marriage right after you graduated. It’s not really their fault either, almost all of your friends from your faith community got their marriage arranged right after or right before they graduated and all of them are living happy lives. Your parents only wanted what was best for you- and instead all of you got manipulated and it is nobody’s fault except your ex’s. Sorry love. Something better will come.

It wasn’t your fault your fiance changed his mind about you and kept it to himself, and eventually you had to call everything off when he started treating you so poorly to the point you couldn’t stand it because he didn’t have the guts to end the relationship. 

It wasn’t your fault your fiance demanded you to move across the country for him and within only months of living in your new hometown, you got laid off from your job and you had to return home. Companies have to do lay offs all the time, and a lot of times it is the first people who get hired that has to go. 

It wasn’t your fault you donated the gifts your fiance gave you. You don’t need gifts from anybody that disrespected you. 

It wasn’t your fault you got rejected to so many jobs and it took a while to get your first job, and is now taking just as long to get your new job. It isn’t always easy to land a job, even with your qualifications.

It wasn’t your fault you had to cancel your car lease and rental lease in California when you had to move back home. What else is one supposed to do when they lose their first job?

It wasn’t your fault you stopped writing and taking calls from relatives because you couldn’t put into words what you experienced in the last 7 months of your life. 

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It. Just. Wasn’t. Your. Fault.

So here’s to you Shaz!

Despite everything that happened, you totally nailed so many things in your life! You graduated with your Masters degree from a top 10 school, you worked temporarily for a top company in a high level role, you made an Instagram and got 100 followers overnight, and most importantly- you ended a toxic relationship because you knew you were worth so much more.

Just wait. 25 will be a great year for you ❤ You will see why everything happened the way it did 🙂

Love, 

Shaz

Why I Began Blogging

When I was 14, I had just gotten the only short story I’ve ever written published. It was published in my school’s literary magazine and a few other places. I was so proud of myself.

One day, when my parents were having a party, all the guests crowded around me- they all read my story and were amused.

“Shahz! Look at you! You are a budding writer!” one women came up to me and told me. She gave me a big hug and gave me a genuine smile.

My dad turned around immediately. “Don’t encourage her” he said with a smirk.

I felt my heart break into a thousand pieces.

Everybody at the party stopped talking.

The women looked shocked. She stood up and glared at him. “No you should encourage her! I don’t know any teens that can write like that! Hell- I’m trying to teach my kids early on how to write like your daughter does!”

I saw my dad freeze like ice. No woman has ever talked back to him.

This huge smile crept across my face. At that moment, many moms jumped in and started talking about how my story inspired their teenagers and themselves.

My dad simply walked away and went back to the conversation he was in with the dads at the party.

This short story and my other writings became a huge hit that I started working on a novel. Along the way, I kept winning many contests and scholarships. I always kept it a secret from my dad. Years later, when I was with my roommates my third year of college, I was talking about how I was taking a Screenwriting class and how excited I was about it.

“Really? You don’t strike me as the writing type” my roommate said.

My jaw dropped. What the hell was that supposed to mean? What does ‘the writing type’ look like? Anyone can write!

So I politely explained to her and my other roommate that I definitely am a writer and won many scholarships for it. They. Simply. Laughed. In. My. Face.

It’s because of people like them and my dad that I lost confidence in my novel and never ended up finishing it. People still ask me where it is…

This blog, is that novel that never ever got published.

I write this blog for the other “Shazs” in the world. Sure I could keep my thoughts in a diary as many people told me to do when they found about this blog, but what would that do for the world?

I want to remind all of the Shazs in this world, that it’s okay if some days, the only thing you did was watch Netflix and ate food. I want to remind all the Shazs in the world, that it is totally fine to still like someone who hurt you (but know that you deserve the best and trust that it will eventually find its way to you). I want to remind the Shazs in this world, that someone you love can call you something you hate- and you must, you must, have the power to walk away (or forgive if they are your family). I want to remind all the Shazs in the world that when someone tells you something you don’t like, simply say or think to yourself “Yes. Thank you for your opinion. That was lovely. Goodbye”. I want to remind the Shazs in the world, that your day to shine will come- and there will be A LOT of those days.

I can’t explain the number of emails/comments I have received from readers thanking me for making them laugh or putting a smile on their face. This would not happen if I kept my thoughts in a diary to myself.

Sometimes, in my worst of days, I read my own posts and laugh through it. I smile at how much I have matured. I cry over how much I have had to endure. And I laugh at all the things I have gone crazy about :0

My mom always says, that for someone who is only 22, I have had to face the most toughest challenges in life. That I had to become an adult faster than most.

I tell her that’s funny because some people think I’m childish. She says it’s because they don’t know anything.

Well then.

Now. you. know.

xoxo. S.

1 whole year of blogging bliss…Happy Blogiversary to me!

BlogiversaryReader! Bring out the cake and party streamers! It’s our one year anniversary 🙂

With all my heart, to you wonderful individuals who I am blessed to call my followers- thank you for all your support, love, and critiques through my journey this year ❤ WE MADE IT!

It’s hard to believe I started this blog exactly one year ago with the pseudonym “SassPrincess” haha. From there, I grew and became more genuine.

As a treat, I’ve decided to talk about some of your favorite posts 🙂

Most Read Post: That Day I Stopped Taking My Meds

Wow, the amount of hits this post got flattered me. But I can see why. It has inspired a lot of my followers as well as my friends who read the blog to open up. It has helped me share my story and help others. It took a lot of courage to write this, but I’m glad I did.

Most Liked Poem (and post!) Award Goes To: “Fake”

Well gosh. This poem was probably the most frustrating poem to write 😦 I cried so hard while journaling it. It was about my wonderful college heartbreak “Prince Player”. Who knew it would get me so many wonderful readers and positive reviews about my poetic skills? I better send him a thank you card one day…

The Poem That Most Followers Wrote To Me About: “Forbidden”

A.k.a fan mail. Yes, I’ll agree with this one ❤ It was another tear jerker, but absolutely true. I find myself in this position with a lot of relationships, this one was specifically written for “Sugar” but I can’t say it doesn’t apply to anyone else. Reading all the e-mails, I know that this one means a lot to my readers. All I can say is, if it does apply to you, hang in there reader ❤

My Favorite Poems! “Putting You In A Poem” and “Missing”

I love “Putting You In A Poem” because it describes what I go through when I write about love interests! IT’S DIFFICULT. “Missing” means a lot to me because I know it’s something that we all face at one point in our lives.

Most Liked Weekly Musings: The “Big O”, pen stealers, new quarter, and other weekly musings! and Summer School Blahs: Writing in eyeliner, “taken” men, and other musings!

Hahahahaha. I can see why these two posts are well liked, I just re-read these posts and  even I’m laughing. These two really bring out my witty personality! Have a look for yourself 😉

Honestly reader, I wish I can talk about ALL my posts! But these are your favorites (and I don’t want to bore you) !

Oh and while I’m at it, I want to give a shout out to a few readers! I love all my readers, really, but I must say…

There are some readers who have been there for me so much that I wish we can be friends in real life and just go out for coffee or something… So here they are 🙂

Paul at The Captain’s Speech- The first week I got back to college, I was falling apart. All I wanted to do was just drop out. My friends totally betrayed me, the love of my life hooked up with one of my closest friends, and I was hating my major. And then I found Paul’s post called
I Miss School, Already on Freshly Pressed. It made me stop and think for a moment. After that, I changed things a bit and started enjoying college more 🙂 And today, I continue following Paul and his wise posts. Cheers to you my friend! Thanks for being there 🙂

Audrey at Like Crazy- We’re the same age and have the same dilemmas. I love Audrey because she reads almost every one of my posts and I can relate to almost every single one of hers! She’s one of those bloggers I would like to go shopping with. Thanks for being you girl ❤

Miss Lou at Miss Lou Aquiring Lore- Hahahaha. She is hilarious and knows how to make me laugh ❤ She always leaves the best comments on my posts and makes me smile 🙂  Although she is a bit hard to find at times, I hope you see this Miss Lou!

Michelle at Dancing in the rain!- Goodness. Through all the heartbreak that happened this past year, as well as missing my mom… Michelle was always there to be a mom figure and give me the best advice. She always stops by when I need someone the most and lifts me up. Thanks Michelle 🙂

Thanks to the four of you 🙂 AND ALL MY READERS! Reading your blogs is a a joy for me 🙂 I can only hope I’ve done the same for you ❤

xoxo. Shaz.

My Readers Actually Like Me?

Oh my goodness reader,

Can I just shout a loud viral “THANK YOU!” to my readers? Wow guys, I was taking a study break around midnight last night…and I had this crazy idea that I would Google my blog and see what came up.

And what do you know. In these past few months, I have suddenly been featured on HerCampus, We Heart It, Twitter, Pinterest, Facebook, Tumblr…and I’ve been totally clueless!!! WOW. AND… the best part is, you guys share it with your friends, laugh, and make a conversation out of it!

I mean, you see these “share” buttons all the time under my posts…but I never know when you actually do!

In the mist of these crazy finals and my new chapter…this is exactly what I needed, readers ❤ Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

xoxo. S.

I may have already let the cat out of the bag… blogging about family and friends

Okay so I read this really interesting post on WordPress’s daily post today.

http://dailypost.wordpress.com/2013/11/07/writing-about-family/

And I have to say I’m already getting in trouble with this. Family reading my blog is a big and 100% NO!

But friends? I actually liked them reading my blog at first. When my blog first came out, I just posted some of my favorite quotes and relationship advice. So I didn’t really care.

But as time went on, I started writing about my life more. The boys I like and the boys I hate. What I love about myself and what I wish I could work on. And then, I regretted telling my friends about the blog.

They would randomly pull me aside and say things like,

“So, who’s that new guy you were talking about on your blog?”

“So, you’ve been having a lot of family issues lately huh?”

Um. Get the f— out? By all means, I’m the one who wrote it and obviously they will read it. But we have shopping and coffee dates for a reason! If they use my blog to get to know me, what’s the point?

There are exceptions to this of course. The men/boys I write about, they are more than welcome to read this blog. In fact I encourage them to, it is their right to read the things I say about them- I just hope they learn something from it.

My best friends who know me like a book, the ones who already know what I’m going to write on my blog before I even publish it- they are also more than welcome.

This blog is for a wide audience. It’s for college kids, it’s for sweet but strong women like me, it’s for parents, it’s for men…but it is no place for anyone to come in and become nosy about my life.

But I must say, most of my readers are actually not friends I know in real life and I absolutely adore you guys ❤ Your comments and e-mails keep me entertained and happy.

xoxo. Shaz.